Direct and Indirect way in Speech

Speaking is a day to day activity. Japanese Language has many annoying rules in conversations, making Japanese people forced to conceal the truth when they have conversations. In Japan, there are words and phrases that women cannot say because there is a rule that says women are supposed to talk indirectly in conversations. There are two ways to talk, one is the direct way, and the other is the indirect way. In other words, people who tell you what they really think is the direct way, or those who are polite, but leave you wondering how they really feel is the indirect way. Some people prefer the direct way to talk because it is easier to express their ideas. On the other hand, people using the indirect way to talk believe it is not as easy to offend others. However, I don’t agree with the indirect way of conversing. A direct way is better rather than an indirect way, because the direct way in conversations is not only an easier way to express ideas clearly, but also it makes people become of more an honest person and can become more easily trusted. Different countries use indirect ways to talk, especially, in Asian cultures.
In Japan, many people, especially for women, may think twice about what they are going to say when dealing with their classmates or colleagues. There is a little difference between women and men in conversations. Women’s language is much more indirect than men’s. It is not fair for a woman, once she tells the truth people don’t like to hear, she is considered to be rude or uneducated. On the other hand, in the United States, everyone can speak in a direct way because they don’t want to make the conversation so complicated, and confuse people on what they really think. I believe in the United States, women talk in a more direct way, and it’s normal, no one will think she is rude. For example, in an American party, if a man is interested in a woman, he will show his love to her directly without hesitation. And also, if the woman hates it, she absolutely has the right to reject directly. As far as I am concerned, I am sure that it is much more comfortable to express my ideas clearly and directly when I have any kinds of conversations. It can make the conversation easier to understand, and we never get lost in the conversation. People may not get trust if they always use the indirect way to conceal the truth. On the contrary, in the United States, we are allowed to talk directly, so everyone doesn’t have to pretend, we can trust our people. While Japanese people talk indirectly and cannot ask a word when they get lost in the streets, American people are more direct to talk and can even say “What’s up, man!” to strangers when walking by. As for me, I still cannot forget the first day when I went to college. On that day, I couldn’t find my classroom, and I felt nervous, and then I asked for the help from the strange schoolmates. I was lucky; everyone liked to help me because they heard my direct way to ask for help. Therefore, if we begin talking in an indirect way, everyone may choose silence to reply to a stranger because it is protective for him or her. However, life would be boring and suspicious around us. Hence, if we change the indirect into a direct way, showing our ideas in honesty, we will have peaceful and lovely lives around us. The argument from Chinese people would be that talking in a direct way is not mature. For example, when the office employee want to raise their salaries, it is better to have an indirect way to talk with the boss otherwise the situation will get worse. However, we have to know that maturity has nothing to do with the way you talk in a direct way or not. Actually, in the United States, everyone wanting to talk directly doesn’t mean that they are not mature. It is because they don’t have so many rules and rituals in cultural history. As we all know, America is an immigrant and a young country, so women don’t have the rule that makes people talk indirectly. I believe America develops faster than any other countries because everyone can show their ideas directly, so no matter what the idea is, it always helpful for the development of the country.
In short, the direct way is better than the indirect way when people have their conversations. There are many benefits when we choose to use a direct way of talking, for example, we get trusted and we also can easily express our mind. As we talked above, we know that the way people choose to talk depends on different cultures and countries. Mostly, in Asian countries such as Japan and China, they would like to choose an indirect way to talk because it is polite and not offending. However, in the western culture, especially for the United States, people would like to choose direct ways to talk because it is understood and outstanding. What if Japan and China, change their talking style? They would get many benefits. I believe only in the direct way can people have a wonderful life in the future.